I met a man there in November, we exchanged numbers, kept in contact and have now been dating for 3 months, since December. He's kind of like me, he's not there all the time, but he stops in now and then. Now we stop in once in a while together if we've gone on a date and don't want to head home yet. About 3 weeks ago, one of my favorite cousins Jeramy came in from BC. I don't get to see him often so we decided to hang out and have some wings and drinks, and we went there. My boyfriend wasn't feeling well, so he decided to stay home and crash early.
I went in two weekends ago with my boyfriend, and while he got up to go use the restroom and while I was sitting at the table, one of the waitresses pulled him aside and told him that I was ZOMG there with another man the week before, and she just thought he should know, and she also thought he should know that back in the fall I was there with the same guy ALL THE TIME and so she's pretty sure I had another boyfriend.
1. Yes, I was there with another man, my cousin. We sat on opposite sides of the table, ordered wings and had a few drinks. I stayed for a total of an hour and a half. I wasn't aware I could never step foot outside the house with a male member of my family.
2. Yes, in the fall I did used to go there all the time, with my boyfriend of 2 years, who I broke up with in October. Relationships end, and you even SAID yourself it was back in the Fall, if I haven't been there with him since then, why is that a point at all?? Wow, I'm not a nun, my boyfriend is not my first boyfriend, I don't see the earth shattering news in this one.
He's not friends with the waitress, they're cordial but it's not like they're friends and she's just got his back, he hardly knows her, and he thought it was really screwed up that she'd do that as well. He knows me, he trusts me, and he knew right away when she brought up the first one that it was my cousin. I also thought it was weird, because when I WAS in with my cousin, she came up to the table to ID me. I was like "Seriously? I'm here all the time, we talk all the time, you know who I am", but gave her my ID anyways, I think now it was more so next time my boyfriend was in she could make sure she had my name right before calling me out.
I want to go in to complain to the owner, let him know that the waitress should be concerned with whether or not I pay my bill, and not on trying to investigate details in my love life in order to try and cause problems with my relationship. My boyfriend doesn't think it's a big enough deal to complain, that it was really weird but not worth getting her in trouble, says he knows it's not true, he trusts me 100% and in the end maybe she was trying to be nice.
As a side note, I don't think she's trying to cause issues because she wants him, she's about our parents age, and she is usually really nice with everyone, very grandmotherly. I'm really uncomfortable though that someone would try to cause issues like that or make me out to be a cheater. If she had come up when I was there with my cousin and just asked, she would have known I was his cousin, instead she jumped to a conclusion and spread it around.