March 6th, 2013

Oh, the drama.

I'm not sure if this is bad service or if I'm just being overly touchy, in any regards I think it was inappropriate. There's a pub near my house that does karaoke on weekends, I've been going here on and off for about 3 years. I'm not a regular by any regard, but I do stop in once or twice a month and have for a long time. The waitresses there have all been steady for about a year, so it's always familiar faces.

I met a man there in November, we exchanged numbers, kept in contact and have now been dating for 3 months, since December. He's kind of like me, he's not there all the time, but he stops in now and then. Now we stop in once in a while together if we've gone on a date and don't want to head home yet. About 3 weeks ago, one of my favorite cousins Jeramy came in from BC. I don't get to see him often so we decided to hang out and have some wings and drinks, and we went there. My boyfriend wasn't feeling well, so he decided to stay home and crash early.

I went in two weekends ago with my boyfriend, and while he got up to go use the restroom and while I was sitting at the table, one of the waitresses pulled him aside and told him that I was ZOMG there with another man the week before, and she just thought he should know, and she also thought he should know that back in the fall I was there with the same guy ALL THE TIME and so she's pretty sure I had another boyfriend.

1. Yes, I was there with another man, my cousin. We sat on opposite sides of the table, ordered wings and had a few drinks. I stayed for a total of an hour and a half. I wasn't aware I could never step foot outside the house with a male member of my family.

2. Yes, in the fall I did used to go there all the time, with my boyfriend of 2 years, who I broke up with in October. Relationships end, and you even SAID yourself it was back in the Fall, if I haven't been there with him since then, why is that a point at all?? Wow, I'm not a nun, my boyfriend is not my first boyfriend, I don't see the earth shattering news in this one.

He's not friends with the waitress, they're cordial but it's not like they're friends and she's just got his back, he hardly knows her, and he thought it was really screwed up that she'd do that as well. He knows me, he trusts me, and he knew right away when she brought up the first one that it was my cousin. I also thought it was weird, because when I WAS in with my cousin, she came up to the table to ID me. I was like "Seriously? I'm here all the time, we talk all the time, you know who I am", but gave her my ID anyways, I think now it was more so next time my boyfriend was in she could make sure she had my name right before calling me out.

I want to go in to complain to the owner, let him know that the waitress should be concerned with whether or not I pay my bill, and not on trying to investigate details in my love life in order to try and cause problems with my relationship. My boyfriend doesn't think it's a big enough deal to complain, that it was really weird but not worth getting her in trouble, says he knows it's not true, he trusts me 100% and in the end maybe she was trying to be nice.

As a side note, I don't think she's trying to cause issues because she wants him, she's about our parents age, and she is usually really nice with everyone, very grandmotherly. I'm really uncomfortable though that someone would try to cause issues like that or make me out to be a cheater. If she had come up when I was there with my cousin and just asked, she would have known I was his cousin, instead she jumped to a conclusion and spread it around.

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Tonight, my husband and I decided to eat out at a local Mexican place. We've been there a couple of times before, but always with other people. As an aside, my Dad is visiting soon from Australia, so I joked to my husband that I had to make sure the restaurant was still good before we took him there.

We go in, and there's no one there. No customers, no staff. It's set up so that the counter is in front of a kind of corridor, and then the kitchen is (presumably) off to the side, so you can't see it. We sat down and checked out the menus, and then a guy appeared and gave us some chips and salsa, and took our drink orders. He brought those out pretty promptly, to be fair, and took our main order. I got nachos, and my husband got a super burrito.

Then he disappeared again, but not before turning on the television sound. I wish he hadn't, as it was airing some kind of vapid ET show, but whatever, maybe he thought we'd like it. About 15 minutes go by, food appears. Except, there's no guacamole on my nachos. And no staff in sight. About 10 minutes later, a woman appears, and my husband jumps up and tells her about the guacamole. She doesn't understand, but she fetches the guy, who admits there should be guacamole and gives me a small dish of it, but doesn't apologise.

Again, we're left alone. We finish our meals and we want to order dessert. We've been wanting to try their flan for ages. But again, no staff in sight. We wait...we've been there about an hour now. Eventually, the guy comes out and asks if everything is ok. As soon as we say yes, he starts to move off again, so we had to call him back so we could order the flan and coffee. I then watch as he grabs a flan and puts it in a to-go box, and sets it on the counter. He then disappears. I mention to my husband that he'd done this, and we figured maybe someone called in for a flan or something. So we wait for our coffee and flan...nothing. The woman appears behind the counter and starts putting dishes away. We wait some more. Then the guy appears, seems surprised to find us still there, brings over the flan in a bag and says, you wanted it to go, right? Well no, we didn't. But at this point, we just want to go home so we accepted the flan-in-a-bag, paid (leaving a very small tip) and left.

It was so weird. We were the only people there, so it wasn't like they were rushed off their feet. They didn't seem to care at all if we wanted to order more stuff. They never refilled my water, or asked my husband if he wanted another drink. Not sure we'll bring my Dad there after all :/