Let me preface this by saying my husband is in the Navy. He looks good in uniform. I'm not ugly, I like to think I'm pretty.. But I'm not skinny. I have curves, and big boobs and a butt. Apparently this means I can't POSSIBLY be with my husband. Even though I rock an engagement ring and a wedding band, and it's shiny.
My husband came home for 2 weeks and we had 2 incidents where we had female servers. One wasn't THAT bad, second one was UNBELIEVABLE.
I had just picked him up from the airport and he was in his dress blues, we went to Outback Steak House for dinner. We were seated, waitress comes and asks us for our drinks. I order a cocktail, she asks for ID. Husband orders beer, she asks for ID. He hands her his military ID and she just glances at the front of it (Uh, his date of birth is on the back, dummy). She comes back out, gives us our drinks and takes our order. The whole time she will not look me in the eye, but when she goes to get his, oh man, it was like she was undressing him with her eyes, and she giggled at him the whole time. Strike 1.
So, were sitting across from each other, and we're holding hands across the table. She comes over with our appetizers and another beer for him. She had PLENTY of room to set it down on either side of us. What's she do? Holds it there in front of him til he lets go of my hands and takes both from her. My drink was empty, and she goes 'Would you like a water now?'.. And I said 'No, I'd like a Sprite, thanks'. 5 minutes later she brings me back a WATER. Strike 2.
At this point my husband is upset. He sees that she's obviously flirting with him and being rude to me. She brings out our food. We ordered the same cut of steak, both ordered them rare.. Mine was well done, his was perfect. She stops by mid-way through the meal, my glass is empty, but asks him if he wants another beer when he still had half a glass. He said 'No, but I think she needs a refill', and she was like 'Okay, another water?' and I said 'No. Sprite, please.' and my husband goes 'The same thing she asked for last time'. So she comes back, sets my sprite down then puts her hand on my husbands shoulder and squeezes it and says 'Thank you for serving our country' and winked at him. Strike 3.
Husband is LIVID. He's mad she touched him, he's mad about how she's acted toward me all night. We get our bill, and she hasn't charged him for any of his beer. He ends up tipping her 10%, which is low for us. We typically tip 20%-30% always. And when we were leaving, the manager stopped him to shake his hand and asked him how dinner was.. My husband goes 'It was alright, but let your servers know that if they want a better tip, don't flirt with a married man and never treat the wife like shit'. She's out.
We had went to an event during the day, he was wearing his service uniform. We went to Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner. We're seated, I order some kind of lemonade with alcohol in it. He orders a beer. There's 3 different sizes, he asks for the middle one. Well, she comes out with his beer, in the largest size and goes 'It's on me' and winks. And she goes to walk away and he's like 'Ma'am, where's her drink?' and she goes 'Oh! I got preoccupied with yours I forgot to check if hers was ready, I'll be right back with it.' 5 minutes later (He timed it) I had my drink. Strike 1.
She takes our orders. He ordered like 30 wings. I ordered 15 of the little boneless things, and she goes 'Wow' and I ask for a basket of the wedges and she goes 'Uh, it's really a lot of fries, would you like a single serving instead?' and my husband chimes in with 'We share those, thanks'. She asks if we need anything else and I ask for a water with lemon, and I didn't see her but after she walked away my husband goes 'You know that bitch rolled her eyes when you asked for your water?'. Strike 2.
So while we were waiting on our food my husband gets up to go to the bathroom. It was just on the other side of the wall where we were sitting. A few minutes later, after I'm sitting there thinking he's taking forever, I hear him shout 'I WANT A MANAGER. NOW.' I jump up, go over there because I know this can't be good. in the five years I've been with him I've heard him raise his voice twice. I get there right as the manager does and my husband goes 'You know, I come to a restaurant to eat dinner. Not to hear 2 broads call my wife a fat cow and ask each other why I'm with her'. Strike 3
The manager starts apologizing. Husband isn't done. He looks at the 2 girls and goes 'So, you think she's a fat cow, huh? You want to know why I'm with her, right?' And our server is in tears, and the other girl looks scared. I'm going 'Honey, it's okay, let's just go'.. Oh, no. My husband goes 'Because she's beautiful, because she has 10 times as many brain cells as both of you combined, because I don't think girls who look like you are attractive, and because I love her!'. Both girls are crying at this point. They're out
The manager made the girls apologize to me and my husband and also made it very clear that our server would be reprimanded 'to the highest degree'. The manager asks us if we still want our food and our bill will be covered. Husband says 'Hell no, I don't need your food or your freebie', takes out his wallet and gives the manager his debit card to pay for the drinks. The manager at that point asks for our phone number and address that way corporate could contact us.
My husband was pretty angry for a few hours. He told me had they of been guys he'd of hit them, lol. I mean, I guess people say shit like that all the time, but I guess it's different when the person you're talking about hears you.
I ended up getting $150 in giftcards from Buffalo Wild Wings.. My husband said to give them out for Christmas. Haha.
tl;dr female servers don't like me because my husband looks good in uniform.